People don't know what you need but they do want to feel apart of your struggle so letting them help is not only a blessing for you but for them I'm learning. And you need to be specific and tell them what specific thing might be something nice that they can do for you. And allowing your friends to do something makes your friends and family feel very useful and supportive. So I'm slowly learning to graciously say, "Well, now that you have offered there is one small thing you could do for me if it is not too much trouble." (Now when was the last time I said that to anybody except Jack? Probably a million years ago.)
How am I learning to accept help graciously? By listening to these two wonderful ladies below.
Here's Joann Murchison who heads The Road to Recovery for both major hospitals in Prince William County, namely Potomac Hospital on the east side of the county and Prince William Hospital in Manassas on the west side of the county as well as for the Fauquier County Hospital in Warrenton, VA. Joann herself is no stranger to cancer. She was one of the main providers for her brother's wife who reached after many years her final stages with breast cancer.
One of the big events that Joann heads up is the annual Relay For Life each June at the Manassas Fair Grounds to celebrate the lives of those with cancer, those who provide help for cancer patients and to remember those who have died from cancer disease. The Relay For Life for 2010 will be June 5 and June 6. I'm planning to attend and to participate. Great timing since June 5 is my birthday and my chemo treatments should be finished by then.